Ever since I announced my intention to move out of California I’ve had the same question, “where are you going?” Which is, to be fair, an honest question.
At first the answer was easy, “I don’t know.”
My choices were endless but I needed to know my budget and find the right house. Out of the hundreds I watched and bookmarked and researched, I found The One in June and closed in July.
It’s in the Midwest.
That’s all really most people need to know.
But I’ve been hounded, endlessly, by the curious about where EXACTLY it is.
And I’ve chosen not to disclose the location.
I have some reasons which won’t be shared here but let’s talk about the main one: privacy.
You cannot unsay something. Once it is known and in the somewhat public domain there’s no going back. As a somewhat public figure I have to consider privacy with everything I do.
Do I share when I’m on vacation?
Do I advertise speaking at a conference?
Do I mention I’ll be road tripping for a month?
One of the stories that changed my mind on how much to say came from this account. While I’m not a personal fan of this author, knowing what he experienced makes me think about my own safety.
Another big reason I won’t be sharing my location is y’all don’t need to know! I do have a PO Box in a town on the way to “town” — if you live in the country you know what I mean — which I would share privately if necessary.
But most of y’all will never be sending me mail or visiting (if you were invited, let’s be clear I may have a bigger house but it is not a hotel). I know this because many of my friends live internationally and scattered around the country.
For those people who might live closer and want to visit, well, I lived 90 min away from the town I grew up in for 14 years. In all that time, 2 people from my hometown visited and one has since passed away.
We like to scoff and whine about celebrities and people on social media sharing their whole lives from what they eat, wear, read, how they decorate, travel, and on and on. I’m doing the opposite so if you’ve only ever followed me for recipes 😂 or decorating pictures or to know what I do day in and day out, you’re going to be disappointed.
And if your feelings are a bit hurt, I understand but what you to know this is not about you.
This is a personal boundary that I am willing to defendant it’s simply not important to know my location at this time. Still annoyed? Then take a moment to ask yourself why I should compromise my privacy and boundaries for your curiosity. I’m very interested in knowing the answer.